Tuesday, August 17, 2010
My Lovely, Pleasurable Interview with My Great (Both ways) Aunt, Lavina Harper
What is the food that you most remember eating from your childhood?
My mother's hot biscuits
How long since you've eaten them?
In the Southeastern part of North Carolina, it was a given that people would eat homemade biscuits, sometimes three times a meal. The last time I ate them was when I was with (Kait's Aunt, Christy's Mom) Pam in North Carolina visiting my cousin Delma and her husband Jim. She makes wonderful biscuits.
What is the most beautiful flower, do you think?
My favorite in Hawaii was the yellow plumeria
The prettiest is a rose
Do you have a favorite quote of inspiration? If so, what is it?
As events happen, quotes or sayings pop into my mind. I can't think of a particular one... My father had many victorian sayings... "There's more than one way of beating the Devil around the stump" (meaning there's more than one way to do something.)
I still use them, particularly with my sisters because they can relate to them
Aunt Lavina with her friend, Winifred Morse and my Grandma, Neva Harper Smith
What sorts of things did you, Grandma Smith, and your other sisters do together when you were younger?
We played a lot with our cousins. We had three sets of cousins, aunts, and uncles within walking distance in a rural community. We played "Prisoner's Base." Neva was very good, she was Eagle Eye. I remember that I had to go stand in jail in the corner; I was crying.
We played volleyball and basketball and hide and seek outside. We'd make up plays and act them out on our porch.
Aunt Lavina grew up in Nahunta, North Carolina. This is a picture of the church house there.
My Father took us swimming. In the evenings, we played "Blind Man's Bluff." We were pleased when our father played.
My sisters liked to play with cutout dolls.
In the summertime, we'd draw pictures in the sand around our house, then grade each other with letter grades.
We would go barefoot and put our feet in the soil, and have a "little house" around our feet.
Aunt Lavina told me she wrote memories like these down about each of her sisters that she gave to them on their birthdays. Later, I got to see them. Here is the one she wrote about Grandma Neva:
Bette Davis is excellent
I enjoyed Jimmy Stewart - - It's a Wonderful Life - it's not Christmas without it
Gary Cooper in High Noon (I don't usually enjoy westerns, but I did enjoy him in that.)
Could you please share with us a scripture? It doesn't need to be a favorite, just one you think should be shared.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding (Proverbs 3:5.) This was an old MIA (Mutual Improvement Association) theme.
The 23rd Psalm "The Lord is my Shepherd."
From the Joseph Smith Wentworth Letters, my mission theme:
The standard of truth has been erected; no unhallowed hand can stop the work from progressing... (... Persecutions may rage, mobs may combine, armies may assemble, calumny may defame. But the truth of God will go forth boldly, nobly, and dependent, till it has penetrated every continent, visited every clime, swept every country, and sounded in every ear, until the purposes of God shall be accomplished and the Great Jehovah will say, "The work is done.")
It's not a scripture, but it is very good. It's fulfilled as missionaries go throughout the world.
What is the most comfortable type of weather to you?
The low 80's, high 70's, like Hawaii. I like the humidity, it's kind to your skin.
(She mentioned before this that she can be comfortable anywhere. But her skin does feel uncomfortable to this day due to the dryness of Utah.)
What is a memory that stands out in your mind from your teaching experiences?
When I taught in Junior High, my favorite grade to teach was the 8th grade. One day, I was trying to teach them some manners. I was late for class, and when I got there, the whole class stood up at the same time and said, "Good Morning, Miss Harper."
(We both chuckle at this.) It was so funny!
At BYU Hawaii, one of my classes was very small, about six people. I could tell they hadn't read. I told them to come back when they had. I then went into my office. One student came in and she said, "I know you were disappointed in us today Sister Harper."
It was very nice that she was sensitive to that.
In Hawaii, the 30th of May was Lei Day. Many of the students would wear leis to class. It was a very nice, fragrant custom
I had a young man in my class who got a 'D.' He came in after and wanted me to change it. He swore at me and said, "I will get it changed."
A couple of years later, at graduation time, the faculty would leave and usually shake hands with the graduates. He came through the line, shook my hand, and said, "Thank you, Sister Harper." This helped to ease a sore spot. It seemed he had forgiven me.
Of course, no one can offend you, you just let yourself be offended.
What do you remember best about your mother and father?
I don't even remember them telling us they loved us, but it never crossed my mind. They showed it. I know they were proud of us, I wouldn't have done anything to make them ashamed of me.
We walked to school. My father always wanted us to walk together. He wanted us to be supportive of each other, to be loyal to each other.
He was very loyal of his own family. He had five brothers and two sisters. Just before he died he said, "let my brothers and sister know."
My sisters and I are close. I think he would be pleased. I can't imagine not talking to or writing to my siblings.
My Grandma Neva, Aunt Lavina, Aunt Wilma, Aunt Vivian, and Aunt Lettie
Cali and I would like to know: Where did the glass balls come from?
Here they are, in case you're wondering what we're talking about...
They are attached to Japanese fishing nets. They wash up on the shores of the pacific ocean. Usually when there is a storm, they wash up. They're from the beaches of Hawaii
Becky's Nick (Kait's cousin) loved to roll the biggest one up and down the floor. They're pretty sturdy.
(Wow. Cali, we knew it would be a good story!)
Aunt Lavina has not just lived in Hawaii, she's traveled all over the world. She has been to 54 countries, and all 50 states.
In the hallway of her apartment, this map is hanging on the wall:
The Pins are sticking in the places she's been
The ones that have little flags are the places she's lived
People always ask me that, I can't really say. I can say the most spectacular:
The Taj Mahal
The Great Wall of China
Other places were beautiful, these were just the most spectacular.
To see the moon or sun rise or set out of the ocean is really spectacular as well
Could you please tell us some memories from your time in Hawaii?
A close-up of Aunt Lavina's map. The flag is where she lived in Hawaii, the pins where she's visited.
Aunt Lavina's time in Hawaii
Laie 1st Ward, July 1988Aunt Lavina with Julia Cawer, April 1987
I worked in the Hawaii temple
Those were special times. It was busy, I was teaching full time and usually had a stake or ward calling.
While in Hawaii, I had the opportunity to go to Kalaupapa, a Leper colony. You had to have a permit from the health department to go. We could not take the sacrament, because those who were preparing it were lepers.
(She has pages written about this in her personal history. If I had had the time, I would have read more. Even the little I heard was fascinating.)
Aunt Lavina's Hawaiian quilt was used as a backdrop during a book signing
Isn't it just a lovely quilt?
Is there any advice you could share with us about traveling and showing respect for different cultures?
Elder Oaks said it best, we should learn enough so that our actions: the food we eat, the things we do, don't offend.
My friend married a French woman. She could not understand the candied yams at Thanksgiving. It was almost offensive to her to have that sweet of a food with Turkey and the other foods.
(Again on respecting other cultures...)
It's always a matter of emphasizing the positive. I had a cousin with seven children, many of whom went on missions. She used to say, "when you go on a mission don't complain, even about the weather. Let the natives do that."
It goes along with negativism. People don't like you to be critical of their home. They might be critical of it themselves, but they don't want to hear others do it.
To sum up, be respectful of the customs of other people, even though they're strange to you; emphasize the positive.
What is the best tasting food you've had during your travels?
I don't mind trying new foods. My visiting teaching companion is from India. She just made me Dosas
I like them. I quite like a variety of things. A particular food that I miss from Hawaii is papaya. You can't get a good papaya here
To say a specific food, in a specific country, I couldn't say.
Is there a place that you've never been that you'd still like to visit?
I would've liked to have taken the train ride from Beijing, China to Moskow
Transiberian Route Map (Found Here)
Also, the train ride across Canada. I've seen much of Canada, but I know that is a wonderful ride.
I'd also have liked to have seen more of Africa, I think.
Probably navy-blue, but I like some reds. (These are the colors I like for dress.) Pink is a pretty color too, and my house has warm colors.
Do you have a favorite song?
I love the hymns of the church - usually there's one for any occasion.
I have a very bad habit of humming. My neighbor calls me "The Hummer."
One woman said in the store, "What are you humming? Maybe I can join you!"
Are there any specific tender mercies or simple pleasures you enjoy that you'd like to share with us?
It doesn't take a lot to make me happy. Many of the tender mercies have come from other people. When I was in Hawaii, I had surgeries twice. One was for Thyroid Cancer. It was Christmas Eve. I had worked to get my grades in, and then gone to the hospital to have my surgery.
When I woke up from my surgery, Neva was there. She leaned over and kissed me on the forehead. She had flown over to be with me. Then she flew back to be home for Christmas.
Early Christmas morning, I woke up lonely, sort of apathetic (this is one of the effects of anesthesia.) I heard a knock at the door. It was one of my students, a little Filipino girl. She stood there with a pink carnation.
She said, "Merry Christmas, Sister Harper!"
I wasn't lonely anymore.
Before the surgery, the surgeon told me to bring in a necklace that I liked, and he would make the incision to match the necklace.
This was a very thoughtful thing for him to have done.
Is there anything else you'd like to tell us, any words of wisdom, or anything else you'd like us to remember?
I really do think there's great merit in being positive. People who are negative are hard to be around. You don't have to be oblivious or have your head in the sand, but there are a lot of good things in life.
In the 5th Grade, when we did state reports, my hand shot up the fastest to choose the state I wanted. I chose Hawaii, of course. I knew my Aunt Lavina could help me with lots of interesting things to add to my report.
I was right! She lent me leis, gave me shells and a lovely wooden dish to put them in
I can also remember her sending me postcards and letters in envelopes with stamps for my stamp collection. They were always beautiful, exotic looking stamps.
Everyone in our family has at least one good memory of Aunt Lavina. It was great hearing them shared at her 75th birthday a few years back. She's very special to us.
Aunt Lavina was very good at being interviewed. I could just taste those buttery biscuits and smell the yellow plumeria and fragrant leis.
This is Aunt Lavina with Santa
She told me she signed up to have her picture taken with Santa, but he came when she was in her nightgown.
She was so kind to let me use her pictures.
Thank you, thank you, Aunt Lavina. It has most definitely been a pleasure.
Aunt Lavina's Collage: